What sort of mother tells her kids there is No Santa 5 days before Christmas?
This one :-(
Full of cold and at the end of my tether with back chat, being told I'm a mean mummy who never gives them "anything!" and sibling rivalry, with warnings of "Santa will be watching!" falling on deaf ears...out it comes, mouth opens and bleurgh, on the table. You could have heard a pin drop.
I know, I know...I'm the adult. I should be able to take the accusations of being a mean mummy because I tell my kids off when they don't do as they're told for the 10th time, of being a mum that doesn't love her kids because I won't buy them the latest gimmicky things...
Other parents tell me "it's normal" and shrug it off. Well sorry for not being able to, it finally hit a nerve.
After worrying about how to even afford Christmas this year and working one's a*** off trying to get the money together in 'todays economic climate' it blooming well hurt! I shouldn't have done it, and I regret it, yes they're just kids, but it's done.
I don't know about other people, but I was brought up with Santa providing a sack full of presents on Christmas morning and since that's what I knew, that's what I carried on. But that means buying presents from mummy to each kid, from each kid to each other and then Santa's stash as well for each kid... That's a lot of presents. Most of which are not needed and just add more clutter to the house. They will still get all those presents, just now they know they are all from Mean Mummy!
Admittedly I don't like what the whole commercial Christmas/Santa thing anyway - whatever their hearts desire, "I'll just ask Santa for it"...oh will you? And yes 'Santa' often obliges since we bend to their desires, wanting our kids to have a wonderful Christmas. Unhealthy perhaps, but we do it.
"You have to be good!"...how many actually carry out the "no presies on Christmas morning" threat? I couldn't. Consquently, threats are meaningless and the kids know it.
I've committed a cardinal sin, and the response of Friends and Family is to a) say he IS real actually or b) mum got it wrong...both making me out to be either stupid or meaner than I was at the start of all this debacle.
I can imagine other parents shrieking with horror and shying away from my kids so they don't blurt out 'The Truth'. Admittedly, I've told mine not to spoil the magic for the younger ones they know.
I told them "Santa" is real in a way because the 'spirit of Santa' should be in people's hearts; it's about being kind and thoughtful (see the real Santa/St Nicholas story), but I dare say folk think that's just the usual claptrap that I'd come out with and hardly what a distraught kid wants to hear.
God do I feel bad. Burst their bubble. "Destroyed their Christmas!"...we will have to see.
It's gone...creeping downstairs on Christmas morning..."has he been"...
On the upside, I guess the Tooth Fairy and Easter Bunny will be a doddle after this.
:-(
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